Great article, I know the value of an ID in training and development. It’s even better if the ID can do the training as well. The best of both worlds.
I read a book years ago from a coach that I loved to go visit out in Tacoma, Washington. Frosty Westering was one of the most successful coaches in college football and was the head football coach at Pacific Lutheran University. The “Lutes” as they were called. Frosty let me share my testimony with his football team as a motivation. He was the best at motivating his players. His book takes a key spot in my library. I hope you enjoy these keys from the book “Make the Big Time Where You Are”
There is nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come.
Five Levels of Learning
- Memory
- Understanding
- Application
- Belief
- Your BEST SHOT
Four Key Levels of Relationships
- Formal
- Informal
- Confidence
- Trust
Power of Choice. Our mind is our biggest muscle.
Choice, not chance, determines our destiny.
Attitude is everything. Big Five. Caring, challenge, confidence, comparison, choice.
Our habit of thought that affects our feelings and actions. We become what we think about!
Garbage in, garbage out. Good in, good out!
Mentors: We need to have them. We need to be one.
Become a go-giver. Not just a go-getter.
Trust: The most powerful gift we can give or receive.
Affirm and encourage: Atta ways and high 5s do make a difference.
Make the big time where you are.
It is not a place, but a state of your heart.
It’s not something you get, it’s something you become. It’s a lifestyle.
Success is not at the end of the road; it is the road.
Winning becomes a by-product.
Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.
The real measure of me is not what I can do compared to others, but what I can do compared to my best self.
Our attitude not only affects us, but everyone around us.
You can’t keep a good person down.
We don’t have a good day. You have to make it a good day.
Winning is not something you get; it is someone you become.
When we feel good about ourselves, we produce good results.
60-30-10 Rule
60% of the time individuals and teams beat themselves
30% of the time opponents play at a higher level
10% of the time momentum comes in the game
20/80 Rule
20% of what do produces 80% of the results
The other 80% of what we do produces only 20% of the results
Giving it our best shot
The edge is in the process
If you’re not enough without them, you’ll never be enough with them.
For laughter is the sunshine of our souls
Handling mistakes and low-level performance
- Admit it
- Learn from it
- Flush it
- Bounce back with affirmations and encouraging team talk
- Play in the now. Next play or Next Best Action (NBA)
Thermometer-type people – controlled by outside conditions
Thermostat-type people – control the conditions from the inside out
Green light, amber light, red light
It is a cinch by the inch and hard by the yard
Three definitions of BEST
- Being the best
- Doing your best
- Giving your best shot
The success road is always under construction.
TEAM – Together everyone achieves more
It’s amazing what can be accomplished when no one cares who gets the credit.
Score a touchdown today. Put up six people, including you.
There is positive power in the put up game.
It’s not the size of the dog in the fight; it’s the size of the fight in the dog.
We furnish everything but guts.
As we inspire others – we become inspired.
By lighting other’s candles, we all shine brighter.
Confidence is contagious and so is lack of confidence.
Teamwork of the Northern Flying Geese.
Fly together much farther
Honk to support each other and to let the flock to know where they are in formation to keep up the speed.
It’s not about match ups. It’s about playing up to our potential.
Sooner or later the person who wins is the one who thinks they can.
Character: Our best piece of equipment.
Class – Humility, caring and character.
If you have it, you don’t need much else. If you don’t, not matter else you have it doesn’t make much difference.
Never, Never, Never, Never, Never give up!
Whether we think we can or think we can’t, we’re usually right!
Learn to take an ordinary job and make something out of it.
It’s not the critic who counts; it’s the one in the arena who gives their best shot over and
over again.
If you give a man a fish, he eats for a day.
If you teach him to fish, he eats for a lifetime.
Our visions are out of sight, but not out of mind.
Our desires are out of reach, but not out of sight.
SMARTER Goals
Smart, measurable, attainable, relevant, trackable, extra effort, revise and renew
It’s so easy to not do it now!
I sharpened my ax! Work smarter, not harder. It’s the little things that make a big
difference.
Problems can become a self-fulfilling prophecy causing negative and troubled mindset of doubtfulness, fear and frustration.
Challenges can energize us in a positive way to approach life’s many varied situations.
We can go from them without fear and give our best shot over and over again.
Second effort is the key.
Good enough to get by is not good enough.
Control negative self talk. It lowers performance. Affirmations. Positive self talk.
Visualize yourself accomplishing things at a high level. It enhances performance.
Evaluate. Give yourself regular feedback. It’s the breakfast of champions. Keep you on
target. Renew-Revise-Raise.
A winner had the desire for excellence and the will to extend himself in the process of attaining it.
Desire is the root of all motivation. The Green flash.
Your attitude is like hitting a golf ball, only you can control its direction. Give it your best shot.
The four basic psych games
- Distraction
- Intimidation
- Provocation
- Pretension
All are no win games. Focus on the now. What you can control.
Love is the greatest motivator of all. Not fear or incentive.
Faith, hope and love and the greatest of these is love.
There’s no one else in the whole human race with your kind of style and your kind of
grace.
Mirror room. It’s all about me. Window room. It’s all about us.
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
The success road is not somewhere you get, but someone you become.
Will the road you are on get you to my place? God
You don’t have a good day. You make it a good day.
As iron sharpens iron, so we sharpen each other.
The strange secret is that there is no secret.
It’s choice. It is the power of choice. Heart power is what generates a new fulfilling
dimension in our lives.
Business professor Rodrigo Canales explores the deadly genius of Mexican drug cartels in this fascinating prezi, adapted from his chilling TED talk on the brains, business savvy, and brutality driving the world’s drug trade.
It’s truly fascinating how successful people approach problems. Where others see impenetrable barriers, they see challenges to embrace and obstacles to overcome.
Their confidence in the face of hardship is driven by the ability to let go of the negativity that holds so many otherwise sensible people back.
Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania has studied this phenomenon more than anyone else has, and he’s found that success in life is driven by one critical distinction—whether you believe that your failures are produced by personal deficits beyond your control or that they are mistakes you can fix with effort.
Success isn’t the only thing determined by your mindset. Seligman has found much higher rates of depression in people who attribute their failures to personal deficits. Optimists fare better; they treat failure as learning experiences and believe they can do better in the future.
This success mindset requires emotional intelligence (EQ), and it’s no wonder that, among the million-plus people that TalentSmart has tested, 90% of top performers have high EQs.
Maintaining the success mindset isn’t easy. There are seven things, in particular, that tend to shatter it. These challenges drag people down because they appear to be barriers that cannot be overcome. Not so for successful people, as these seven challenges never hold them back.
1. Age
Age really is just a number. Successful people don’t let their age define who they are and what they are capable of. Just ask Betty White or any young, thriving entrepreneur.
I remember a professor in graduate school who told our class that we were all too young and inexperienced to do consulting work. He said we had to go work for another company for several years before we could hope to succeed as independent consultants. I was the youngest person in the class, and I sat there doing work for my consulting clients while he droned on.
Without fail, people feel compelled to tell you what you should and shouldn’t do because of your age. Don’t listen to them. Successful people certainly don’t. They follow their heart and allow their passion—not the body they’re living in—to be their guide.
They follow their heart and allow their passion—not the body they’re living in—to be their guide.
2. What Other People Think
When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own destiny. While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to hold up your accomplishments to anyone else’s, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.
Successful people know that caring about what other people think is a waste of time and energy. When successful people feel good about something that they’ve done, they don’t let anyone’s opinions take that away from them.
No matter what other people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain—you’re never as good or bad as they say you are.
3. Toxic People
Successful people believe in a simple notion: you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Just think about it—some of the most successful companies in recent history were founded by brilliant pairs. Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak of Apple lived in the same neighborhood, Bill Gates and Paul Allen of Microsoft met in prep school, and Sergey Brin and Larry Page of Google met at Stanford.
Just as great people help you to reach your full potential, toxic people drag you right down with them. Whether it’s negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, toxic people create stress and strife that should be avoided at all costs.
If you’re unhappy with where you are in your life, just take a look around. More often than not, the people you’ve surrounded yourself with are the root of your problems.
You’ll never reach your peak until you surround yourself with the right people.
4. Fear
Fear is nothing more than a lingering emotion that’s fueled by your imagination. Danger is real. It’s the uncomfortable rush of adrenaline you get when you almost step in front of a bus. Fear is a choice. Successful people know this better than anyone does, so they flip fear on its head. They are addicted to the euphoric feeling they get from conquering their fears.
Don’t ever hold back in life just because you feel scared. I often hear people say, “What’s the worst thing that can happen to you? Will it kill you?” Yet, death isn’t the worst thing that can happen to you…
The worst thing that can happen to you is allowing yourself to die inside while you’re still alive.
5. Negativity
Life won’t always go the way you want it to, but when it comes down to it, you have the same 24 hours in the day as everyone else does. Successful people make their time count. Instead of complaining about how things could have been or should have been, they reflect on everything they have to be grateful for. Then they find the best solution available, tackle the problem, and move on.
When the negativity comes from someone else, successful people avoid it by setting limits and distancing themselves from it. Think of it this way:
If the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke?
Of course not. You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with all negative people.
A great way to stop complainers in their tracks is to ask them how they intend to fix the problem they’re complaining about. They will either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.
6. The Past or the Future
Like fear, the past and the future are products of your mind. No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future. Successful people know this, and they focus on living in the present moment. It’s impossible to reach your full potential if you’re constantly somewhere else, unable to fully embrace the reality (good or bad) of this very moment.
To live in the moment, you must do two things:
1) Accept your past. If you don’t make peace with your past, it will never leave you and it will create your future. Successful people know the only good time to look at the past is to see how far you’ve come.
2) Accept the uncertainty of the future, and don’t place unnecessary expectations upon yourself. Worry has no place in the here and now. As Mark Twain once said,
Worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe.
7. The State of the World
Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time and you’ll see it’s just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies, and environmental disasters. It’s easy to think the world is headed downhill fast.
And who knows? Maybe it is. But successful people don’t worry about that because they don’t get caught up in things they can’t control. Instead, they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power—their attention and their effort. They focus their attention on all the things they’re grateful for, and they look for the good that’s happening in the world. They focus their effort on doing what they can every single day to improve their own lives and the world around them, because these small steps are all it takes to make the world a better place.
They focus their effort on doing what they can every single day to improve their own lives and the world around them…
Bringing It All Together
Your success is driven by your mindset. With discipline and focus, you can ensure that these seven obstacles never hold you back from reaching your full potential.
What other challenges do successful people overcome? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.
Many people believe that creativity and innovative thinking are traits that we are born with—we either have them or not. However, we have found that people who are highly innovative are a work in progress, forever questioning and examining themselves and the world around them. Far from being something we are born with, we can all become more innovative and creative by developing the traits that innovative people share. Here are some of the emotional intelligence-related attributes that innovative people share.
1. INNOVATORS HAVE THEIR EGO IN CHECK
Emotional intelligent people have their egos under control and are open to other people’s ideas. They don’t think their ideas are always the best. As a result of their openness to other ideas, they are able to accumulate a larger source of data from which to draw from. They are also less likely to fall into the trap of following up on ideas and prospects that are only popular and then receiving kudos for them.
2. EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE ARE CONFIDENT, NOT ARROGANT
Even though they may not think their ideas are always spot on, there is always a belief in their craft and innovate accordingly. They see failures as temporary setbacks. By failing, this will uncover a way that doesn’t work, bringing them closer to a way that will. Great innovators such as Edison, failed countless times before achieving a breakthrough that led to success. A common factor in all innovators is they see failures and setbacks as temporary and do not take them personally.
3. THEY ARE CONTINUALLY CURIOUS
Emotionally intelligent people are curious about people, concepts, and issues. They’re open to new information always on the lookout for new ideas that can be put into practice. Being avid readers, forever seeking out new ideas, and expanding their knowledge base increases their repertoire of tools for future use. Noticing every opportunity, a random meeting with a stranger, conversation, or an event they are attending is always an occasion to learn something new. Every person they talk to is seen as possessing some knowledge that may be beneficial to them.
4. THEY ARE GOOD LISTENERS
Emotionally intelligent people pick up on information and are able to sit back and take it in, and are adept at processing information that makes them excellent listeners. When someone is speaking, most people are formulating a response in their minds instead of just focusing upon what the person talking is saying. Good listeners are able to focus not only on the words that are being spoken, but are aware of the tone of the words, the body language expressed, and the emotions behind them. This allows the individual to not only absorb valuable information but develop strong relationships with others. We all have a strong desire to be heard and are attracted to those we feel have taken the time and effort to hear us.
5. THEY DON’T LET THEIR EMOTIONS AFFECT THEIR INNOVATION EFFORTS
Emotionally intelligent people see failure as a process—this takes them one step closer to being their best self. They don’t have to defend an idea that is proven to be wrong as they’re seeking to advance themselves personally and are looking to advance their ideas. Emotionally intelligent people just love to create because this fills their soul and life purpose.
6. THEY CAN TAKE DIRECTION
Emotionally intelligent people have a keen sense of awareness.They can express their emotions in a way that isn’t confrontational. They can be assertive without being aggressive. One must be able to take direction in order to give direction.
7. THEY EMPATHIZE WITH CO-WORKERS AND CUSTOMERS
Being emotionally intelligent allows people to feel comfortable around you. To truly understand a customers’ needs you have to have empathy. It’s not just about the product. It’s about the people. As Maya Angelou said: “You may not remember what someone said to you, but you will remember how they made you feel.”
London-based Hanwell Pet Store has created an infographic titled, “10 things you probably didn’t know about dogs.” (But since you’re reading Anything Pawsable, you likely already know these things and more!)
How many of these things did you already know?
Coming out of Full Sail University I was taught to think “out of the box”. Starting a new job as an instructional designer with a company that does things a “certain” way can be a challenge. I was constantly coming up with new ideas but most would say, “good luck getting that passed through”, and kind of chuckle at me. I have created a course that was “WAY OUT of the box” just recently and had to deal with a lot of opposition. It wasn’t pretty but upper management wanted change and middle management was a bit nervous about change. Needless to say, I stuck to my guns and had to step on a few toes to get through the opposition.
This is a great article that identifies the types of mentalities in a company. With those tools to identify who you are working with, you can better handle the situations that come up and oppose you. Another good analogy is in the form of a question. “Are you a salmon or a stream?” A company has goals that all should be on board with and like salmon heading to spawn, we all have a common goal. The stream is the flow of opposition as well as a few bears from time to time. Note: try not to be a bear or the stream lest your job security will be a question. GOOD LUCK!